The song "How Deep Is Too Deep" by Ellie Goulding explores the theme of a complicated and toxic relationship. The lyrics depict a scenario where one person is constantly drawn back to their partner despite the destructive nature of the relationship. In the song, the narrator watches their partner as they dress, indicating a level of possessiveness and obsession. They feel trapped in the relationship, as expressed through the line "I'm running out of moves, so I keep it undone." The partner seems to enjoy seeing the narrator in a state of chaos and distress, as mentioned in the line "You like me in a mess, cause I always come back to you." The reference to being cast in a thriller but having their scene cut out suggests that the partner controls and manipulates the narrative of the relationship. The narrator acknowledges the partner's desire to wash them off, but at the same time, the partner wants them as a permanent fixture in their life, likening it to a tattoo. This duality reflects the conflicting emotions and power dynamics present in the relationship. Despite the toxic nature of the relationship, the narrator continues to hold on, waiting for the emotions and intensity to escalate. Meanwhile, the partner keeps the narrator around for fantasies and their own satisfaction, without truly committing or loving them. The chorus questions the partner's actions, as they believe they are not doing anything wrong since they are giving the narrator just enough. The narrator contemplates how deep the relationship goes, wondering if it is too deep for either of them to handle. Throughout the song, the narrator expresses a sense of longing for a deeper connection and a healthier relationship. They acknowledge that they deserve better, but they are also aware of the addictive and cyclical nature of their involvement. In the bridge of the song, the narrator suggests that they could find something deeper and better if they let go of the toxic relationship. However, they question how deep is too deep and if they would be able to find the same intensity and connection elsewhere. In summary, "How Deep Is Too Deep" delves into the complexities and contradictions of a toxic relationship, portraying the struggles of holding on to something that is harmful while yearning for a deeper connection.
