The song "If You Want A Mother" by Gretchen Wilson tells the story of a woman who realizes that her partner is not looking for a romantic relationship, but rather someone to take care of him like his mother did. The lyrics suggest that the narrator has been mistreated by her partner, who expects her to fulfill the role of both his partner and his mother. The song starts by describing how the narrator's partner wants her to do everything for him, like bringing home the bacon and serving it to him. However, when she fails to meet his expectations, he portrays himself as a victim, making her feel like she has mistreated him. The narrator realizes that this is the same way his mother treated him throughout his life, and she finally understands that he was never looking for a wife, but rather a mother figure. The song then shifts to the narrator accepting her role and offering to be a mother to her partner. She tells him that it is not difficult for her to be a mother to him if that's what he wants. She sets rules and restrictions, like making sure he comes back home by 9 PM when he goes out bowling. She also threatens to take away his new Silverado truck if he disobeys her. In the later part of the song, the narrator expresses her willingness to tuck him in and be there for him if he needs her, but she also emphasizes that big boys have to sleep in their own bed. This suggests that she is willing to care for him as a mother, but he needs to take responsibility for himself as well. The overall message of the song is that the narrator has accepted her partner's desire for a mother figure and is willing to fulfill that role. However, she also sets boundaries and expects him to grow up and take care of himself to some extent. The song portrays a complex dynamic between the two individuals, with the narrator finding her own way to navigate their relationship.
