The song "The Same As Being In Love" by Harvey Danger is about basing one's self-identity on their opposition to someone or something else. The lyrics suggest that when you define yourself by what you are against, it is like being in love because it consumes your thoughts and actions. The chorus talks about forgetting things when drinking alcohol and seeking validation from others, even if it means flattering their ego. The metaphor of wine skin and bladder represents the relationship between the speaker and their partner, where the partner is the wine skin and the speaker is the bladder, holding and carrying their partner's emotions. The song also touches on the passage of time and the feeling of being stuck in a pattern or cycle. The speaker feels that they are using distractions like vapor and Liquid Paper (a correction fluid) to avoid facing their own problems. In the end, the message of the song is about finding a less dramatic way of dealing with conflicts and acknowledging the role we play in our relationships. The speaker realizes that they are not just a variation of their partner but have their own unique identity and desires.
