"Mistress and Maid" is a song by Elvis Costello from his 1989 album "Spike." The lyrics depict a troubled relationship between a woman and her lover. The woman in the song represents a mistress who is seeking validation and attention from the man she loves, who is her lover and whom she refers to as "dear." In the beginning, she welcomes him into her space, offering him comfort and familiarity. However, her lover seems detached and disengaged. He indulges in distractions such as magazines and other women, ignoring her, and their relationship becomes distant. The woman reminisces about a time when the man used to bring her flowers and make passionate promises. She longs for his undivided attention and intimacy, particularly in the bedroom. But now, those promises and gestures of affection seem hollow, only existing in the darkness of their encounters. As the song progresses, she becomes frustrated and wants to confront him, demanding his attention. She desires to be seen and recognized as more than just a mistress, wanting to reclaim her sense of value and worth. The contrast between her role as both a mistress and a maid symbolizes her contribution to their relationship, both emotionally and domestically, which is now unappreciated. Ultimately, she realizes that her situation has come to a breaking point. She no longer wants to be relegated to a subservient position, waiting for his attention. She asserts her independence and declares that she is not his mistress or maid anymore. This signifies a realization of her own self-worth, breaking free from the confines of an unfulfilling relationship. Overall, "Mistress and Maid" explores themes of longing, dissatisfaction, and the desire for recognition in a relationship. It highlights the emotional struggle of a person who wishes to be seen and valued by their lover but realizes that they deserve more than being sidelined and reduced to a mere role or title.
