The song "Not The One" by Empress Of explores the theme of using physical intimacy as a means of temporary escape from the pain of a past lover. The lyrics suggest that the protagonist is engaging in a new relationship or fling, but deep down, she knows that this person is not the one she truly desires. The lines "Put your hands on my neck, Push your lips close to my lips" and "Talk to me slowly, Touch me like you already know me" convey a desire for physical closeness and affection. The protagonist seeks comfort in the familiarity and intimacy provided by this new person, even though she is aware that they are not the one she truly longs for. She acknowledges this conflict within herself by repeating the line "I gotta tell myself, You're not the one but it helps." The physical connection helps momentarily distract her from the pain of missing her ex-lover's body and presence. However, she is also aware that this is a temporary fix and does not truly heal her emotional wounds. The lyrics also mention how both people, the new person and her ex-lover, may bear similarities physically, as they are described as having the same height, but they are not the same person. This emphasizes the fact that while the protagonist may find temporary relief in this new relationship, she still longs for the deep emotional connection she once had. Through the repetition of the phrase "Use both hands," the protagonist possibly expresses a desire to fully engage in this physical connection and the temporary escape it provides. However, this repetition could also be a reminder to herself to use both hands to let go of the past and fully embrace the present, even if it is only momentarily satisfying. In summary, "Not The One" by Empress Of explores a complex emotional state, where the protagonist seeks temporary solace in a physical relationship while also acknowledging that it cannot replace the emotional connection she truly desires.
